Women's lives are filled with endless worries, such as changes in life stages and hormone imbalances. As we get older, our worries tend to become more complicated. Now that we are living in an era where we can expect to live to 100 years, and common sense about how we live is changing dramatically, what do women need to do and what should they value in order to live a rich life? Cosmetic expert Megumi Kanzaki answers readers' questions honestly. This will be delivered in three parts.



Problem: "How do I deal with my teenage children?"
My own menopause and my child's adolescence overlap, and I spend every day trying to figure things out. In particular, when it comes to sex education for my son, who just started high school, we both feel a bit embarrassed and find it difficult to talk about it. How are you dealing with this, Kanzaki-san? (Everyone/40s/Female)


Kanzaki's answer:What did you want when you were an adolescent? Try to remember.

When it comes to how to deal with adolescent children, in my case, I try to consult with my adolescent self. Looking back at myself, I understand the feeling of "Yes, there are times when you don't want to talk." In my case, I was the type who wanted to be left alone, so instead of getting too close to my children, I looked at things other than conversation, such as how they ate or the tone of their voice when they said "I'm home," and tried to understand their feelings and physical condition from there. Regarding sex education, I think the appropriate method will differ depending on your usual relationship, but in my case, I have tried to incorporate the knowledge I want to convey from a young age, such as when they take a bath or in everyday conversations, rather than talking about it formally. If your child has already reached adolescence, it may be easier to talk to someone of the same sex, so share what you want your partner to tell you, or share books and websites with your son that explain things written by specialists. I don't think mothers should force themselves to take on everything.

Also, when it comes to menopause, one option is to see a specialist rather than self-diagnose. I myself have had the experience of assuming that a symptom was a menopausal symptom, only to find that it was completely wrong after a blood test. Just knowing the cause of your discomfort can make you feel better, and even if it turns out to be menopausal symptoms, there are now a number of options available to you. Regularlytaking blood tests, getting tested, and learning about your current condition so you can take stock of what kind of care you need is a habit that busy modern women should definitely adopt.


Problem:"How can I stop social media from distracting me?"
In a world where the lives of others are so visible on social media, it's becoming harder to know what makes us happy. For example, we end up leaving our happiness up to others, believing that if others on social media envy us or give us likes, we are happy. How can we recognize happiness without relying on others? (Cocoa, 20s, female)



Kanzaki's answer:Distance yourself from things you're not good at and get into the habit of thinking from your own perspective!

In this day and age when social media is so popular, I'm sure there are many people who have similar concerns. Social media is a very useful tool for obtaining information, but if you don't keep a proper distance, you can unconsciously compare yourself to people you don't know.

There is only one thing you can do to protect your mental health: "Keep your distance from things that drain you and things you don't like." Social media is not a requirement, and I think that human psychology is such that when you feel mentally weak, you tend to go looking for things you don't want to see. How can you live without draining your mind? What kind of state do you feel comfortable in? The answer to what you want to do is always within you. Please try to keep your distance from things you don't like and be conscious of thinking and acting from your own perspective.


Problem 3:"What beauty tips are recommended for a busy woman after giving birth?"
I turned 30 last year and gave birth to my second child. When I gave birth in my 20s, I didn't notice anything wrong with my skin or body, but now that I'm in my 30s, I've noticed noticeable post-partum skin blemishes and dullness, as well as a feeling of heaviness in my body, as if my nutrition and energy were being sucked out of me by my child. I don't have much time to look after myself while raising a child, so I'd be grateful if you could share some beauty tips I can incorporate. (Asamo / Female, 30s)


Kanzaki's answer:A busy mom's savior is a high-performance cream.

I myself have given birth in my 20s, 30s, and 40s, so I know that postpartum recovery is completely different. In addition to your body weakening with age, having a second child can be even more difficult, as you also have to take care of your older child. When it comes to beauty, it can be hard to find the time or energy to take care of yourself.
In times like these, it's a good idea to keep moisturizing items such as lotions, creams, and serums in your daily routine. I know you have the energy and budget for beauty, but if you're going to invest in one product, make it a high-performance cream. With just one high-performance cream, you can complete both moisture and protection, so it's a good value for money.

In my case, after a bath, I would use a spray-type lotion to give myself and my child some quick moisture, then I would complete the routine of changing clothes and drying my hair, and then I would do my skin careat the bedside when I put my child to sleep. Even now that my child is independent, I still have my skin care kit at the bedside, and when I'm busy, I do my skin care while I'm lying down. I recommend this product not only to postpartum mothers, but also to busy modern women.




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Kanzaki Megumi / Born in 1975. Beauty expert. Has serials in many magazines, including beauty magazines, and also appears in many corporate tie-ups and events. She is also expanding the scope of her activities, such as advising a cosmetics brand and developing products with an apparel brand. As a mother of three sons, her Instagram account, which is chock full of information about her daily life and beauty, has over 860,000 followers. (@megumi_kanzaki Currently, as the head of the Kanzaki Beauty School, she is dedicated to nurturing the next generation of beauty professionals. She has also written many books, with the total number of copies sold exceeding 1.7 million. Her book, "Basic Knowledge for Life: Beauty Textbook" (Kodansha), has also been a hot topic.

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